When Someone You "Like" Gets Married

I feel strange writing about this topic, because it seems like something people in their 30s are worried about--not me. Not people my age. Part of me is convinced I'm still a kid.

So... News that a girl I went to school with-- and, okay, had a major crush on-- was getting married is a huge wake up call.

Her wedding was today. I didn't go.

I genuinely was busy today, but I also didn't want to go, because for the past couple years, on-and-off, I've been hung up on her.

I feel pathetic writing that out. But it's true. (And I did promise to be real with you, readers).

I'm pretty sure that I feel this way because she's the first girl that I was attracted to, and that crush helped me cement my identity as bisexual.

So here's how I'm dealing. I hope this post helps you if you're in a similar situation.

4 things to remember when someone you like liked gets married:

1 View it as closure. Allow yourself to move on.

2 Remember it's not about you. She's not getting married to spite you or to hurt you. It has nothing to do with you. She's in love. Let her be happy.

3 Know that it didn't work out between you for a reason. This is for the best. Accept that.

4 Be happy for her. That's the healthiest with this situation. This is for the best-- for you and for her.

Have you been in a situation like this? How did you cope?
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