I feel strange writing about this topic, because it seems like something people in their 30s are worried about--not me. Not people my age. Part of me is convinced I'm still a kid.
So... News that a girl I went to school with-- and, okay, had a major crush on-- was getting married is a huge wake up call.
Her wedding was today. I didn't go.
I genuinely was busy today, but I also didn't want to go, because for the past couple years, on-and-off, I've been hung up on her.
I feel pathetic writing that out. But it's true. (And I did promise to be real with you, readers).
I'm pretty sure that I feel this way because she's the first girl that I was attracted to, and that crush helped me cement my identity as bisexual.
So here's how I'm dealing. I hope this post helps you if you're in a similar situation.
4 things to remember when someone you
1 View it as closure. Allow yourself to move on.
2 Remember it's not about you. She's not getting married to spite you or to hurt you. It has nothing to do with you. She's in love. Let her be happy.
3 Know that it didn't work out between you for a reason. This is for the best. Accept that.
4 Be happy for her. That's the healthiest with this situation. This is for the best-- for you and for her.
Have you been in a situation like this? How did you cope?